No matter how much you hope that every date you go on is going to be a good one, even if it doesnt end up with a romantic connection, bad dates do happen. It could because you and your date find that you dont have anything in common with each other except for the one thing that brought you together in the first place (this could be a gym that you both attend, working together or even being introduced by a mutual friend), or it could be that everything that could go wrong on the date did go wrong, and that includes some unattractive habits that your date has displayed!
If the date is going badly, dont leave it right until the end before you tell your date that this isnt working. Assess how much of the failure to find a spark at the date is because of circumstances outside the control of both your date and yourself, and how much of the problem lies with the simple fact that youre just not compatible. If the date has been bad because of external factors then perhaps you might want to consider rescheduling it to see how things go next time; youll certainly have a shared experience to laugh about. On the other hand, if you feel that theres no chance that youd date this person again, then you need to be absolutely clear about this.
Dont make any reference to a future date. If they bring up the issue, tell them gently but firmly that you dont think its a good idea, and that its not something you want to do. Explain that you dont feel any connection with them. You dont need to get mean, or even personal, its your right to say who you date and if you dont want to date this person again, then you dont have to defend that choice. If they try to sway your decision, or at least manage to negotiate a maybe from your no, theyre not going to give up! Cut your losses now and make a clean break by being honest. You dont want to hurt your dates feelings by rejecting their offer of another date, but you do want to be clear that you mean no when you say it. Dont let the issue turn into a debate.
You should have decided who was going to pay for the date at the beginning of the evening. If you hadnt, then you need to decide that now. If it was bad because of your dates behavior, then perhaps you could feel he should pay for everything. If it was bad because you just didnt feel attracted to them, then you should consider paying at least your half of the tab, even if they insist they want to pay. It will help you walk away from the date feeling less guilty about not accepting another date from them if you share the expenses of the evening.
Accept that bad dates happen, and if one does happen to you, just deal with it, put it down to experience and move on.
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